Positive education is also called effective parenting or positive parenting. It is an education based on listening, caring, trusting and supporting. These are all elements that will enable a young child to develop into a fulfilled, autonomous and responsible adult.
The origin of this educational method is based in Marshall Rosenberg‘s concept of “non-violent communication”. In 1970, he defined this ideology as communicating with others in a non aggressive or judgmental way. In short, positive education aims to encourage rather than punish the child in order to help him or her to be autonomous and responsible.
Here are the 4 principles that define positive parenting:
- Positive discipline: It is based in the study of child psychology and focuses on a form of non-violent (neither physical nor verbal) discipline. It was developed by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott in the1970s. It consists of disciplining in a firm and kind way without resorting to yelling, punishing, threatening, blackmailing or giving rewards.
- Proactive parenting: It requires a lot of commitment from the parents to promote the child’s development through care. It is important to fight against some of the automatisms that we have in certain situations and learn to develop new ones. Proactive parenting requires a lot of work on yourself and allows you to live in a peaceful family environment.
- Caring education: The objective of caring education is to establish an egalitarian parent-child relationship where the needs of each one is respected. It’s the middle ground between laxity and authoritarianism.
- Non-violent communication:It’s a powerful tool that can heal the parent-child relationship. It is based on communication through non-violent verbal or physical means so that no one feels assaulted. This is called caring communication.