Help me learn to do it by myself!
The term Montesorri comes from Maria Montessori. An Italian doctor and teacher, she studied children and their development for several years. This is how this philosophy was born. A philosophy that tries to exploit the child’s potential by developing his autonomy and helps him develop his capacities by himself. In order to do this, it is important to change the way you see him and to give him the means to be able to do things by himself. This means give him tools that are adapted to his size and his strength so that he can manipulate them, experiment and improve over time. If for example, we want to familiarise the child with the way we transfer a liquid from one container to another: we need to be sure that we are using tools that he can use in an optimal way. Using a small glass for example instead of a big vase and 50cl of water rather than a liter. In conclusion, with this method the child will be able to learn and evolve in a safe and secure environment. This environment should therefore be adapted to his age, size and strength. The child will thus be constantly learning, evolving, becoming autonomous and thus this way independent from an adult.
Being by his side while he is experimenting is also very important, because he will learn better with the help of an adult. It is good to give him space and make as he wishes for him to learn the result of his actions, then show him the “right” method and encourage him. Here “help me do it on my own” is not the same as “teach me how to do it by myself”. In fact “help him” implies guiding your child, being by his side in order to help him, whereas “teach me” refers to teaching the child to be independent from the parent. The child only receives the knowledge of the adult which does not go along with the idea of an egalitarian relationship. On the other hand, if you are by his side to guide him, the child will experience things by himself and he will make mistakes that will be useful for him all throughout his learning experience.